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A week or so ago, I caught one of those “Life classes” Oprah has been doing. This one really stuck with me:
“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
I have thought a lot about this saying and what it means,and I have come to this conclusion:
Some people may tell you who they are by saying “I am caring”or “I am hurtful”, but most people will tell you by their actions, not their words. Most of us will choose to ignore those first signs, chalking it up to a bad day or a misinterpretation on our part. Unfortunately this causes us to receive a smack upside the head, harder and louder the second time around.
So how do you know who someone really is? This reminds me of the song lyrics “Who are you when I’m not looking”. A prime example of this is my friend, Shantel. This is the girl who is constantly happy, truly enjoys her life and is willing to do anything for anyone. Even though I may not see Shantel for months at a time, from the day our friendship formed she showed me exactly who she is, so much so that I know for sure that she is making those around her smile and love life every day.
Now I am not saying the next time a friend is half an hour late to a coffee date that you label them as ‘unreliable’ and ban them from
your life for forever. The key is to spot the toxic. Have you ever noticed how the happiest people are surrounded by happy people and the Debbie downers come in packs? We don’t go out into the world thinking I’m going to look only for good people. No, we are who we attract, who we bring into our lives, who we let go and who we hold on to.
So today take the time to really think about those who are in your life and what they who have shown you about who they are. Are they a reflection of you?