Most everyone knows about the common symptoms of pregnancy: the vomiting, the exhaustion and (obviously) the expanding belly. I thought I was prepared for what pregnancy would be like but there have been a few unexpected symptoms and emotions.
*I do want to disclaimer this post by saying that I am by no means complaining or ungrateful for being pregnant. I am very aware that our baby is a blessing and we truly feel lucky to have her. I am just trying to keep it real here and share a little of my experiences*
1. The battle of the LBS
( I feel embarrassed writing this so please bear with me). A few months ago, I was sitting in the Dr’s office and noticed a poster on the wall showing the ‘ideal’ amount of weight to gain during pregnancy. When I left the office, I found an online site that calculates how much I should gain week by week based on my pre-pregnancy weight.
And so began the downhill spiral.
Obviously, I know weight gain will and should happen but it was – and is still hard to watch the numbers increase. Even though I am still within the guidelines, I am still weighing myself a few times per week. I know I really need to get out of my own head and worry less about a number but I am struggling with it a bit.
Moms>> Did you ever experience worries over gaining weight during pregnancy ? How did you get over it ?
2. The other body changes
Men, don’t read this part.
There are things that happen when you are pregnant that even your closest friends don’t prepare you for.
There was the time I was walking to work and suddenly felt like I had peed myself.
There are the cantaloupes that take the place of boobs. Sure they maybe the best part of pregnancy to a husband but they make finding a bra that actually fits a bit of a nightmare ! Ha ha!
And then there are the comments about barely showing a bump . These are the moments I actually want to pull out the scale and point out the weight gain and show the belly bump that is hidden. HaHa. TRUST ME, it’s there.
3. The Mom worries
I feel like I am forever researching baby articles. Since I haven’t been around a ton of babies, I feel
a bit unprepared. Up until last week, I had no idea how to correctly strap a baby into a car seat. And the number of articles on latching, oh lordy. My nipples already hurt from anticipation pain.
I’m scared of preterm labor although I know there is nothing I can really do to prevent it.
I am constantly asking ( my very understanding) friends for their thoughts and advice on what certain things mean and how to handle certain situations.
A good friend of mine told me that the worrying never goes away. You worry about your child even before they are born and even more so when they are born. Worrying doesn’t have to be a bad thing, she said, it’s part of being a parent. She told me to read what I can, ask whatever I want and know that every mom probably had the same worries, even if they don’t voice it.
4. Missing Mum
This might be my biggest pregnancy surprise so far. I thought when I got pregnant, I would feel the massive absence of my Mum. But instead, quite the opposite has happened. It’s difficult to explain and I don’t want to get into what I believe ( and don’t believe) but I can say that I haven’t ever felt as connected to my Mum as do now that I am pregnant. I often feel like I’m not alone ( not in a creepy way) and gain alot of comfort in that feeling.