In 2008, I made the choice to go under the knife and have a nose job ( also known as rhinoplasty surgery)
Although this is an old story, I thought it is one worth sharing since plastic surgery is often judged, kept a secret or flat-out denied.
To my recollection, I only recall hearing one negative comment about my nose. In my high school years, someone make a crack that sounded something like ” I wonder if she ..nose (knows) ” with pointing to go along with the comment. If there were ever more comments, I never heard them or didn’t care. My issues with my nose began in my late teens, early twenties. I would find myself looking in the mirror, turning to the side and placing tweezers over the bump on my nose imagining what it could look like.
There was never a doubt that I had inherited my birth mother’s nose. The only apprehension I ever had to having my surgery was that I felt like I could be dishonouring her memory. I came to realize that a nose is just a nose and it wouldn’t change where I came from. See the resemblance:
My parents were very supportive about me having the surgery. I still clearly remembering sitting them down on the couch, showing them the brochures and explaining why I was going ahead with the surgery. They asked a few questions and then immediately offered to take me to the hospital and let me stay with them after the procedure. To this day, I am very grateful for their trust in my decision.
My mom took me to the hospital and waited with me for what seemed to be forever before rolling into surgery. I remember laying on the table and glancing at the tools and seeing the hammer. Thankfully, the anesthesiologist entered the room at that moment and the next thing I remember is waking up in some sort of post op room.
My goal was to take the least amount of pain medications that I could get away with but I was terrified of the pain that would come if I didn’t take them. The next few days consisted of lots of sleeping , a swollen face ( note the photo of my dad and I and my attempting to smile) ,frozen peas and the inability to breath. I won’t deny that the recovery wasn’t difficult. I often felt frustrated that I couldn’t breathe and felt over tired and nauseous.
I took a total of two weeks off work, mainly due to the fact that I had two serious black eyes that took about a month to completely fade. About a week after I had the surgery, I was told to take a hot shower and steam off the cast by pulling it off. I remember I had tears running my finger down my nose feeling no bump after I took off the cast. I was happy with it before I even saw it.
I was told that my nose would take a year to completely heal.
Here is a before and after taken 2 weeks after surgery :
Years later, there is a slight point in my nose that I can feel where the break was ( can’t visually see it).
Plastic surgery is a decision that is personal to everyone. Some are severely against it, some have had it and choose to not share and some swear by it. This was a decision I made, and one that I fell was right for me.
Here are most common questions I have gotten over the years:
1. What did the surgery cost?
$4000. I was fortunate that I had received a retention bonus from work the same year as the surgery so I invested in this change.
2. Why did I do it?
I did this surgery because I didn’t feel confident with how my nose looked. I do know that a nose does not make a person. This was a change that I chose to make and not one that I made lightly
3. Do I still think it was the right decision?
Yes. There was only one moment that I regretted having it done and that was the second day after my surgery when I couldn’t breathe, hadn’t slept and was heavily medicated. I got over it.
4. Where are the cuts on your nose and how was the surgery done?
To be honest, I actually don’t know how it was performed. I consciously did not watch any YouTube videos about it or ask the surgeon a lot of procedure questions. I know that the cuts are inside my nose and the skin was lifted and the bump was filled down. My nose was also broken in order to reshape it.
5. Did you have any complications?
I have found that I don’t have much feeling at the end of my nose, but that really doesn’t bother me. In the morning, I do seem to need a lot of kleenex ( but that could be just the weather, office etc ). Like any surgery, there is always the risk of complications.