1. You can’t change time
I recently heard a speaker explain how very few of us actually live in the moment. We are constantly hoping for a future date, a future event , reaching for something that hasn’t quite happened. Yet that when the moment actually happens, we don’t fully enjoy it. It’s the idea of living in the now and enjoying that sunset or the rain on your windshield . This is something that I hear takes a tremendous amount of work; re programing the mind to live in the now instead of the down the road.
2. Edit the editing
Condemning yourself to act a certain way in certain situations or certain environments only denies you the obligation you have to yourself to inhale/exhale and live through the days. In the business environment, it is frowned upon when someone has an emotional reaction to not getting a promotion, having a bad day or bring home to work. I know a good handful of people in the field who have discounted others due to one bad day or not having the ‘correct’ reaction to huge day-to-day change. . Since when did becoming a robot become the desirable?
The editing on continues into family lives, relationships, friendship. New mom’s get scared to admit that they are overwhelmed for fear of being judge as a bad mom. People make carrier changes, go back to school and in the off-chance it’s not for them, they bottle it in for fear that will be looked upon as a failure. How did emotions become the unacceptable standard?
There is a line in a song that goes ” get a grip and bite your lip just to save a little face”…Seems sort of unfair to yourself doesn’t it?
3. Have debates
Talk about things that are happening, share your thoughts and theories with people. Spark a debate. We all have different backgrounds, different views and thought patterns. There is a TV show called “Life Story Project” which asks people to sit on a couch and share their stories and views on different topics. Fascinating to hear where people come from , what they have gone through in their lives and their outlooks. I believe one of the best moments is ” I never thought about it that way”
4. Old movies
( I’m dating myself here) They just don’t make movies like they use to. Have you noticed that some of the best movies were from years ago? I recently watched ” Dead Man Walking” . Good show. Some of my others include ” The Green Mile”, ” Hotel in Rwanda”, ” Seven”, ” Jurassic Park” just off the top of my head.
5. Keep an open ear
Criticism is one of the most challenging things to take in stride but also one of the most valuable. I am the overly emotional , over thinker, over analyzer type. The people closest to me will attest that to this, and once in a while, they have had the guts to remind me of my down falls. I don’t take well to criticism and often have emotional reaction to it. I still hold true to what I said in point two, that its important to not deny yourself of those feelings. However, as long as it’s not done with ill intent, you owe it to yourself to take the feedback. No one is asking you to change who you are. It’s about being open to see how others view you, holding up the external mirror.