As I sat in the chair at my hair dressers, I came across an article that had the following title:
I have heard this statement a few times over the years and for any avid Oprah fans there, there is no doubt this is not the first time you have heard this phrase. As I sat with the color seeping into my hair to cover the odd strands of grey I have been getting over the years, I text a friend to ask her how she would complete the sentence. After she gave me her take on it she then asked me how I would complete it. I was honest. I didn’t have a bloody clue. As my appointment carried on and on the drive home I started to really think about it. I feel a bit changed since I got home from my trip to England ( blogs of the travels to follow, promise). A new outlook perhaps. So after some thought this is what I have come up with :
“What I know for sure….”
1. It’s just a job : When I got back from my trip, I started to get messages from co-workers about how work had been unbearably busy and that I should be prepared to come back to a complete catastrophe with a side of a mental break down. As my first day back to work came to an end, I felt weirdly different. I will be the first one to admit that in the last year ( with a peak right before the trip), my attitude towards work had been poor at best. I felt beaten up, exhausted and just ‘cloudy’. I hadn’t consciously decided to change anything when I got back and besides a few ‘ furniture changes’ at the office, everything was the same. I mentioned to a co-worker at one point during the day, ” it’s just a job” after the comment had come up about the workload. And yes, while I am grateful to have my job I know it’s not my life. If you are lucky enough to find a career you have a passion for , you are one of the lucky few. For everyone else I think its
important highly important to remind yourself to try to stay positive, take your coffee/tea breaks and don’t make it your life.
2. Everyone carriers a energy: Have you ever had a feeling about someone you have met and later tried to explain to someone else why you felt a certain why about that person but can’t put your finger on what made you feel that way? I subscribe to the belief that the feeling that you have, but can’t label is energy. Energy is some times easy to recognize when someone is continuously negative or attacks other people. More than likely you are less likely to want to be around these sorts as they can demotivate you or put you in a bad mood. I tend to find that the people who I’m drawn to and find interesting have the best energy. They are the kind of folks that intrigue you and seem to have this little secret to living a great life that we are all searching to uncover.
I don’t have the answer of how to have good vs. bad energy. My best guess would be that if you surround yourself with positive people who cheer you on when you do well and gently guide you when you steer wrong along with a determination to just be a good person, you may just be okay 🙂
3. The single most important relationship you can have is with yourself: To clarify, I am not being anti religion here. In fact, this is has nothing to do with religion. It’s about the human need to try to find someone or a bunch of people to complete how you feel about yourself or your life. Now I know that when you are in a relationship/ marriage, a partner can enrich your life or as some say ” complete you”. But married or not, relationship or not, I still believe the best relationship is the one you have with the same person who you started off with. Yourself. No one else is ever going to be able to crawl up into your head to listen to all of those thoughts going around up there or truly understand why you think the way you do. Its your own responsiblity to get to know yourself so that when someone says ” what does your gut say?”, you can know the answer.
4. Love is a beautiful thing.. but so is sleep: For most people, a lot of our lives will be spent falling in love, falling out of love and looking for that someone special. I have wondered if anyone has ever measured the average amount of time a person spends stressing/contemplating over love… or even life for that matter. What I know for sure is that when everything else ( chats with friends, thinking out loud , journal etc) doesn’t yield the answers you are looking for, then go to bed. Emotions are at an all time high when we are tired. A friend of mine and I use to always say to each other ” sleep on it and if still makes sense in the morning, roll with it”. Don’t be a hero and stay up late. It proves nothing to anyone that you don’t go to bed until midnight. Sleep is the most under prescribed medication for depression, lack of clarity and overly feeling unhealthy.
So these are the things I know for sure. I hope you enjoy the rest of your week!